"Unsuccessful people make decisions based on their current situations. Successful people make decisions based on what they want to be."
Not sure who said that, but it's a good one, isn't it?
We make thousands of decisions every single day. Some are easier than others. For example;
exercise or more coffee
call or text
read a book or watch tv
jeans or shorts
I call them no-brainers. Coffee, text, book, and shorts.
Some things are not a matter of if you are going to do it, but when. Brush my teeth before or after my coffee? Empty the dishwasher now or later? Mundane everyday things we do without thinking.
Still, so many choices all day long!
What about this one? It used to be an everyday decision I struggled with all day long.
TO DRINK OR NOT TO DRINK.
When we were building our house, one of the builders said, "that's why you're good to work with. You know what you want and decide, and don't go back and forth." Me?
How can this even be the same person? Here's the short answer. When you are caught in the throes of addiction, you lose the ability to make decisions, much less good ones!
You are not you.
It'd be great if someone handed you a snicker bar like in the commercial, and you were back to being yourself, but that's not reality. No one in this situation is looking for a Snickers bar either.
Face it, you cannot be your best self when dealing with brain fog, lack of sleep, negativity, and let us not forget about forgetfulness!
This is why I say it over and over and over. Don't do this quitting thing alone! You need people, community, support, and accountability. All best found when you are in the company of those who know what you are going through. The piece of advice I give to anyone struggling is to first make the firm decision that drinking is no longer an option for you. Done. There isn't a gentle way to say it. You don't ease into it or have a cheat drink on the weekend. Make that decision, and then start listening to others who have gone before you because I totally get that this seems impossible. I have been there, it is very daunting, but it can be done.
You might be like me and cry a lot and say, "I am so afraid of all the change that is going to happen in my life if I quit drinking!" I seriously can't even type that without laughing at BS Sherry.
Hey, it's not what you think! BS stands for Before Sobriety.
Now I know the answer to the question I was so afraid to hear the answer to. What will change in sober life?
Everything. Everything, my friend. And it is amazing, just like God promises. When we trust Him and the people he surrounds us with, it's all going to be ok.